Essays and Conversations on Community & Belonging

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Essays on belonging, and how communities are built, kept and broken.

I write two publications, Leather & Lavender reads the history of the leather subculture through political economy. Social Signal looks at communication platforms and what they do to the people inside them.

Touching Grass and Writing Essays- Washington, DC

Substack - Essays, Notes, and Responses

Leather & Lavender

Social Signal

Substack - Numbered Essay Series

The history of the gay leather subculture and it's institutions read through the lens of thinkers such as Hayek, Ostrom, Boettke, and Hirschman. How guests become owners, and what a community owes to the people who keep it.

Platform dynamics, information theory and belonging. Why feeds flatten intimacy, how context collapses, and what it takes to stay connected anyway.

From the blog

Work in Progress

The Antithesis Project

The Antithesis Project, launched in early 2026, was designed to test how media consumption shapes perception of the world around me—and to finally break a six-year habit of listening almost exclusively to a single artist. This project serves as a reminder that the soundtrack of our lives shouldn't be a fixed prison of rumination, but a fluid art form that carries us through the changing landscape of our emotions. Each monthly playlist captures the unique pulse and atmosphere of that time.

My 2025 most played

Your pets, your home, cared for.

Also Available - Pet and House Sitting

I care for pets and homes from Downtown Silver Spring, traveling by Metro and bus. Please reach out for a full quote today. 

Service Zones

Drop-in visits

Overnight house sitting

House checks

Feeding, fresh water, litter or a walk, and a photo update after each visit.

I stay at your place so your pets keep their routine and the house stays lived in.

Mail, plants, lights and a walk-through while you are away. No pets required.

Starting at $25* per visit

Starting at $55* per night

Starting at $20* per visit

Zone 1

Zone 2

Zone 3

Zone 4

Zone 5

Downtown Silver Spring core and Fenton Village

Drop-in: Included

Overnight: Included

Takoma, Forest Glen, Shepherd Park

Overnight: $5

Drop-in: $5

Petworth, Columbia Heights, Bethesda, Wheaton

Drop-in: $10

Overnight: $10

Downtown DC, Union Station, Navy Yard, Rockville

Drop-in: $15

Overnight: $15

Arlington, Alexandria, Potomac

Drop-in: $25 + Cost of Rideshare

Overnight: Cost of Rideshare once

Rates for

General Clients

Standard competitive rates for everyone.

Friends & Colleagues

Discounts for people I know and anyone who works in the liberty movement or for WMATA.

Senior Assistance

Only available in Zone 1 for now. Steep discounts for seniors - no holiday, travel or rush fees ever asked.

or email alex@alxpilk.me

with your dates, pets and address.

About

I'm a writer based out of Washington, DC. I write about community from the inside - both the physical and digital spaces.

My writings draw on classical liberal economics and history, and on my own life in these communities. I also love to provide pet sitting care in the DC metro region.